The show that I watched without sound is “The Marriage Chronicle”on BET. This show was about marriage couples going through the changes in a relationship, but the most significant thing was their non verbal communication. The married couples in the movie stop communicating or sending unclear messages to their spouse. One spouse was expressing what they feel to their spouse, but the receiving spouse was not listening. With the sound off the married couples demonstrated communication through body language and facial expressions. The couple’s relationships were based on trust and love, but somewhere down the line as they grew, they separated by not communicating and being honest and open with each other. Their facial expressions were more of sad in some scenes, angry in others and just confused. Once I turned the sound on, I was amazed that I had interpreted the information correct. The male companion did not listen to what his wife was expressing, so he really did not know that she was opening up and telling him how she really feels. The male companion was influenced by perception of the male role, and to ignore what his wife was speaking about. When the couple went to marriage counseling, the male companion was surprised at how other people perceived what his wife was telling him (BET, 2012).
I learned that when being open, honest and a good listener that this help build a better understanding of communication. A key part of communicating is listening, being clear and understanding to other person (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2009). This all breaks down to respecting each other, what each other has to say and their responses. If you are not an effective, understanding communicator or listener then you will not perceive the information being given correctly. I know that my perceptions would have been different if this show was previously viewed, because I would be familiar with and understand exactly was is being stated and the audience the message is intended for.
Reference
BET. (2012). The marriage chronicle. Black Entertainment Television.
O’ Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2009). Real communication: An introduction. Boston, MA: Bedford/St. Martin’s.
Hi Tammie,
ReplyDeleteI never saw, "The Marriage Chronicle”on BET" before. It does sound interesting and educating; especially for other married couples going through a similar situation. I enjoy watching showa that could enhance my own communication within my own marriage. At times it is hard to communicate with another person when they are taking the conversation the wrong way. Again, you explain in detail what you actually meant and it is still not good enough. That's when it is important to relax for awhile and then come back to the same conversation with a different mind set later on. Thanks for sharing!
Christine
Tammie, I too was able to correctly guess what was going on by the facial expressions of the people. I chose to watch a show that was set at a ranch with cowgirls and cowboys, horses, bulls, fences, etc. I was ablt to get two scenes right, but that third scene I tas totally off. But the expressions that were displayed led me to believe one thing when it was just the opposite.
ReplyDeleteHi Tammie,
ReplyDeleteI recently saw this movie as well and when I watched it I did the opposite of our assignment. Whenever I watch TV I usually listen more so than watch so as I listened to the show I got the same messages that you received with the sound off. A couple in trouble due to nothing more than a lack of communication. As a matter of fact all the couples, 4 if I remember correctly including the counselor and her husband, were dealing with the same issue. This assignment was different from me because I am used to "listening" to TV but I was forced to actually "watch" it this week.
Hi Tammie,
ReplyDeleteI had a chance to view your post today. And to my surprise we viewed something of the same type of show, in terms of feelings. I thought this was a great assignment to help build our communication skills. I really enjoyed the task. I can see how we can use the same skills we learned in our classrooms with our students and how we can teach our students to listen with out sound also, to see if they come up with a different view point. Thanks for sharing your findings.