Gender, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation

Your response to those who believe that early childhood centers should avoid the inclusion of books depicting gay or lesbian individuals such as same-sex partnered families.

In my opinion by respecting and understanding each person’s identity, this will help educators work better towards a positive and effective relationship with children and families. I believe that there is nothing wrong with children understanding and being aware of what makes a family. Children should have the knowledge and gain the respect of difference and non traditional families, so that they will not be bias, prejudice, stereotype or have a fear of having two parents of the same sex. If children are encouraged and surrounded by a negative voice or view of same-sex partners, than this is what the children will most likely inherit. Children should not be left in the dark of reality of the real world. Children should not be put in the middle to judge or be judged, but instead be educated on the different identities and choices that we assume as we become adults and there is nothing to be ashamed of. When there is biases in gender, children can perceive gender roles due to family structure roles, employment statuses of parents and messages received in the home (Laureate Education, Inc. 2012).

If you have ever used or heard homophobic terms such as "fag," "gay," "homo," "sissy," "tom boy," or "lesbo" as an insult by a child toward another child? Or, by an adult toward a child? Describe what occurred. How might these types of comments influence all children? (Note: if you have not had a personal experience, ask a family member, friend, or colleague).

 

I have heard a boy child call a girl child a “tom boy”. The boys were all playing ball and climbing trees in the park. A little girl from the neighborhood went over to the boys and just joined in. They all looked at her as if she was from another world. The older boy in the crowd called the girl a “tom boy” and stated to her that “girls don’t climb trees and play ball” and to go away. The girl replied “anybody can play ball and climb a tree and they are not all boys.” The boys insisted that she go away. The little girl walked away with her head down. It was kind of sad because they were between the ages of 5 and 6. This type of view from the boys most likely came from their family structure and gender roles in their culture. Many children adapt to their family cultural tradition and some do not. Educators should educate to children that gender does not limit a person to certain activities, jobs, social events, talents, or power. Educators can share the difference and similarities and opportunities for both genders by having group sessions, explaining, photographs, games, play, motivation and encouragement (Laureate Education, Inc. 2012). As a educator we can demonstrate that everyone should be treated equally, have a fair chance at a quality education, to promote the development of the child’s self-esteem, cognitive, social and mental skills (Derman-Sparks L., & Edwards, J.O. 2010).  

Reference 

Derman-Sparks, L., & Edwards, J. O. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC).

Laureate Education, Inc. (2012). "Gender" and "Sexual Orientation". [Multimedia]. Retrieved from ttp://mym.cdn.laureate-media.com/2dett4d/Walden/EDUC/6357/01/mm/sectors/index.html