Observing Communication

My observation was conducted as a preschool. I asked if I could sit in during the morning just to observe the class. During my observation, it was picture day on a Friday morning. All of the children from ages 3 had to wear uniforms. The children all sat around the table eating their breakfast and talking. Before breakfast was over, there was one child that seemed very upset. The child starting crying out of nowhere and the teacher asked "what's wrong." The child stated "I don't want to take my picture." The teacher asked "why" the child then just fell out on the floor and starting kicking and screaming. The teacher stayed very calm and went over to the child and picked him up and sat the child on her lap. The teacher was trying to comfort the child and calm him down. It was amazing because the teacher treated the child as if the child was her own. The child eventually calmed down. Once the child had calmed down. The teacher told the child "it will be ok" do you want me to stand beside you while you take your picture?" The child said "yes." The teacher then asked "are you afraid to take your picture?" The child responded "yes". The teacher then asked "why are you afraid"? The child stated "I don't like when everyone stares at me." The teacher told the child "it is ok, everyone just want to see your pretty smile." The child said "is that why"? The teacher said "yes because you have a beautiful smile." This made the child feel better and the child took his picture with no problem.

 The communication between the teacher and the child was awesome because she listened, understood and was very empathetic. The observation of this type of communication is what children need to make them feel comfortable and safe, their needs are being met and that they are special regardless of who they are, what they wear, or what they look like (Laureate Education, Inc, (2010). The observation and communication helped build the child's self esteem and motivated the child to feel good about themselves. I have learned that it takes a good listener to be an effective communicator, and ask questions so that you can respond appropriately to the question or issue. I have learned that I have always been a good listener, a positive role model and a person who can enlighten a situation by focusing on something positive regardless of what is going on.

Laureate Education, Inc (2010). "Communicating with Young Children"

Creating Affirming Environments

When I open my doors as a Family Child Care Home, I want my facility to demonstrate a diverse, warm, caring, clean and safe environment. I want all cultures, non-traditional and traditional families, genders and ages to feel at home and if their child was in their own home with a private tutor. I believe that all facilities should have a environment in which the children and families can feel like they are at home away from home. I want parents to feel confident when leaving their child and I want the child to feel secure in my facility. The first thing that I would do before my official open date is to conduct a interview of all of my intended students and families. This way I would be able to start a respectful relationship by learning more about the child, family structure, concerns and interest. My facility will have the alphabet and numbers in all languages; I will have toys that are a learning experience that helps the child develop their identity. I want to have toys that connect all cultures and genders. I want to have pictures of all of my students and their families posted on a board to let them know how they are valued. I will have constructive play that allows a child to be a child, creative, role play and play out their fantasy (Derman-Sparks & Olsen Edwards, 2010). 

In my facility I want to be able to celebrate each cultures holiday, so that every family’s tradition is brought into the classroom and respected. I would provide resources for family that are seeking assistance in any way, I would send welcome and thank you letters, have a space reserved for families and I so that we can discuss their child’s future, progress and concerns. I would have a opened minded enrollment application that do not ask specific gender types and mother and father name. Everyday at pick-up, I would inform the parents on how the child’s day was and how they are progressing. I would work together with parents to seek the best interest of the child, have a program and curriculum handbook that is in more than one language, so that parents will know everything about the facility, curriculum and goals.  

The media and the text inspired me by demonstrating the importance of demonstrating acceptance for all children and families (Derman-Sparks & Olsen Edwards, 2010). The aspects I found in the media segment that inspired me to create my environment was the atmosphere and facilities structure. The environment demonstrates diversity, equality, communication between parent and owner, pictures of families and a area set aside for naps, reading, play, a place for a child to relax and calm down and parental meetings. The media segment inspired me because it was set to feel and look like home. The facility seem so comforting and warm (Laureate Education, Inc. 2010). In the readings, the aspects I found are the lessons that all children are unique and that children, educator and parents can learn from each other through collaboration, listening, being attentive, supportive, understand and respectful to each other. I also learned that by implementing a curriculum and environment that is diverse, anti-bias, safe, supportive and comfortable, it will allow families and children to feel more comfortable about being accepted, appreciated and respected for who they are (Derman-Sparks & Olsen Edwards, 2010).

 

Reference

Derman-Sparks, L., & Olsen Edwards, J. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, D.C.: National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC).

Laureate Education, Inc. (2010). "Welcome to an Anti-Bias Learning Community". Laureate Media

 

What I Have Learned

I have learned that each child and family deserves the same opportunity at a quality education regardless of their economic status, age, culture, language, worldview, gender, or family structure. I have learned that each child is unique and each child has their own way of learning and adapting to certain situations or events. I learned that the first thing that as an educator, I must be self-aware, compassionate, understanding, supportive, anti-bias, fair, equal and respectful to every child and family (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010). .

The one hope that I have when I think about working with children and families who come from diverse backgrounds is to be able to communicate effectively, be able to help assist in adapting to a new environment and being able to meet all of the needs of each child and family.

The one goal that I would like to set for the early childhood field related to issues of diversity, equity and social justice is to encourage and demonstrate fairness, equality and make sure that every child and family has the same opportunity at a quality education.

I would like to thank all of you for your responses, interactions and feedback during the course. I hope that we all be able to accomplish our goals and mission to ensure that every child and family receives a fair, equal and quality education.

 

Reference

Derman-Sparks, L., & Edwards, J. O. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC).

Start Seeing Diversity Blog: Creating Art

My definition of art is a picture that has meaning and tells a story. Art is something beautiful that is seen beyond the graphics. Art can send a message that is so powerful that it connects with all groups of people. Art is a demonstration of life and everything that surrounds it. Art is about respect, awareness, collaboration, diversity and people of all ages, gender, sexual orientation, family structure, language and cultural backgrounds. Art is a expression of your inner feelings, views, insights and opinions.

Creation of art that includes diversity and equality should be a expression of understanding, compassion and respect no matter what profession or our identity.

Creation of art with non traditional families

Creation of art with children from different backgrounds

Creation of art with adults in the workplace.

"We Don't Say Those Words in Class!"

There was a time when my son and I were out at the mall and there were elderly people out walking. My son pointed, laughed and said “mom why is that man walking like that.” I stated to my son “that it is not nice to point and laugh at other people.” My son said “why.” I stated to my son that “you would not want someone to do that to you and that it hurts a person’s feelings when you do that.” I also told my son that he can and might walk the same way when he gets older but it does not make him any different than someone who is younger and walking tall. An example of an anti-bias educator communication towards the child and the classroom is to send a message to let the children know that we are all different but we should not be mocked, made fun of, judged, stereotyped or discriminated against just because we are different in so many ways (Derman-Sparks & Olsen Edwards, 2010). 

Reference

Derman-Sparks, L., & Olsen Edwards, J. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: NAEYC.

Gender, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation

Your response to those who believe that early childhood centers should avoid the inclusion of books depicting gay or lesbian individuals such as same-sex partnered families.

In my opinion by respecting and understanding each person’s identity, this will help educators work better towards a positive and effective relationship with children and families. I believe that there is nothing wrong with children understanding and being aware of what makes a family. Children should have the knowledge and gain the respect of difference and non traditional families, so that they will not be bias, prejudice, stereotype or have a fear of having two parents of the same sex. If children are encouraged and surrounded by a negative voice or view of same-sex partners, than this is what the children will most likely inherit. Children should not be left in the dark of reality of the real world. Children should not be put in the middle to judge or be judged, but instead be educated on the different identities and choices that we assume as we become adults and there is nothing to be ashamed of. When there is biases in gender, children can perceive gender roles due to family structure roles, employment statuses of parents and messages received in the home (Laureate Education, Inc. 2012).

If you have ever used or heard homophobic terms such as "fag," "gay," "homo," "sissy," "tom boy," or "lesbo" as an insult by a child toward another child? Or, by an adult toward a child? Describe what occurred. How might these types of comments influence all children? (Note: if you have not had a personal experience, ask a family member, friend, or colleague).

 

I have heard a boy child call a girl child a “tom boy”. The boys were all playing ball and climbing trees in the park. A little girl from the neighborhood went over to the boys and just joined in. They all looked at her as if she was from another world. The older boy in the crowd called the girl a “tom boy” and stated to her that “girls don’t climb trees and play ball” and to go away. The girl replied “anybody can play ball and climb a tree and they are not all boys.” The boys insisted that she go away. The little girl walked away with her head down. It was kind of sad because they were between the ages of 5 and 6. This type of view from the boys most likely came from their family structure and gender roles in their culture. Many children adapt to their family cultural tradition and some do not. Educators should educate to children that gender does not limit a person to certain activities, jobs, social events, talents, or power. Educators can share the difference and similarities and opportunities for both genders by having group sessions, explaining, photographs, games, play, motivation and encouragement (Laureate Education, Inc. 2012). As a educator we can demonstrate that everyone should be treated equally, have a fair chance at a quality education, to promote the development of the child’s self-esteem, cognitive, social and mental skills (Derman-Sparks L., & Edwards, J.O. 2010).  

Reference 

Derman-Sparks, L., & Edwards, J. O. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC).

Laureate Education, Inc. (2012). "Gender" and "Sexual Orientation". [Multimedia]. Retrieved from ttp://mym.cdn.laureate-media.com/2dett4d/Walden/EDUC/6357/01/mm/sectors/index.html

 

Reflection on Communication and Collaboration

I want to thank all of my colleagues for their feedback, perspectives, honesty and collaboration. I wish everyone good luck in their career path of success with the learning, development and relationship building with children and their families. I have learned a great deal from all you and was able to reflect on what is important when it comes to communicating effectively, building a relationship, working together as team, giving respect, being self-aware, cultural aware, benefits of diversity and how to handle conflict in any situation. It was a pleasure working with all you and receiving the encouragement, motivation and passion to move on. I would like to stay in touch with all of you through email. My email is tammiemarion@bellsouth.net. I wish you all the best.